Basically:
When we CARE, good and bad exist.
When we DON'T CARE, good and bad don't exist.

It's all about ever-shifting perceptions.
Can you stop your perceptions from shifting?
Can you NOT CARE about anything... ever,
in order to avoid the trap of thinking about things in terms of good and bad?

The more you care... the more you fret and agonize over consequences. The less you care the more free you are to enjoy life free of all value judgements and fears. The problem comes from how totally hardwired most people are to caring. To not care seems mean and heartless, or even stupid. Who wants to be that way? We have to care. And so we do. And so we suffer. Likewise, the problem with not caring is how accepting of death we need to be. Who wants to be that way? Who wants to not care about dying? Who wants to let suffering just go on?

We value life, so we suffer. Strange.

So... when you care, you suffer, but you might live longer by applying good and bad value judgements to things and thereby avoiding danger. And when you don't care, you are free, but you might die tomorrow by not applying good and bad values to things and thereby walking right into danger! What a choice!

Good luck! :-)

For those who are not getting what is being said, here is an internet meme that sums this up another way:

In a world where everything is just another link in a never ending chain of causes and effects... the past doesn't matter, it's gone. The future doesn't matter either, it's not here yet. The only thing that matters is now. We should only judge good and bad by the moment - not by how far we can extent that context to include as many possible contributors to "now" as we can. Inclusion of an extensive context of causes and effects shows how no moment can be defined... in the grand scheme of things. But in the small scheme of things, each moment carries untold importance to each individual experiencing that moment. In the small scheme of things... things matter.

In this mandala, we don't move through life, life moves through us... like wet clothes through an antique ringer. Or... if turned 90 degrees, like an endless supply of sand through an hourglass. Or... like water being endlessly recirculated through a fountain.

The past and the future are in essence the same - cosmic flux waiting to be consumed by a cosmic engine that is seen by humans as a manifest entity like a human body - i.e. life happening. Past doesn't matter, future doesn't matter. But, at the same time, without a past and a future, there is no "now" to be found between... just as there is no gray without light and dark.